A public service announcement
This morning during breakfast, I learned that a young woman in the dance scene was killed in a drunk driving accident. I had never met her, didn’t even recognize her name, but as I saw the scattered “rest in peace” posts across social networks, I started crying into my oatmeal.
It doesn’t take any great stretch of empathy to imagine your closest loved ones being the names memorialized in shock and sadness. This young woman was that friend, that sibling, that daughter, that niece to a whole big web of people. So while those poor people are forced to adjust to a huge loss in their worlds, I am going to be angry on their behalf.
Never, ever, drink and drive. There is no excuse for that lack of personal responsibility. All it takes is a split-second to become a tragedy that you cannot undo but will wish with all your heart that you could.
A friend who knew the young woman was angry: “I hope this decision haunts you for the rest of your life.” Those exact words came out of my mouth just a week ago, when I saw an intoxicated young man grab onto the license plate of a car that had been honking at some pedestrians, then watched in horror as the car accelerated right over and through him and sped off. My boyfriend and I waited for the ambulance, then walked home clutching each other, unsure whether the young man would survive.
“That could be a human life on that driver’s conscience. And they just didn’t stop. How could you not stop? I hope that haunts them for the rest of their life.”
Without telling each other, both my boyfriend and I scanned the police blotter headlines for the next few days. There was no mention of the hit and run. I hope that means he lived.
Even if you haven’t had a drop to drink, your car isn’t just a prized possession or a mode of transport. It’s a weapon. It may sound paranoid, but I try to remind myself of that every time I buckle into the driver’s seat. And when you are with car owners who have been drinking, be the one who does the right thing, even if they aren’t. Then be sure to tell them in the morning, when they’re good and lucid, just how foolish and dangerous they nearly were.
Take your friend’s keys. They’ll fight you on it, they’ll tell you that it’s okay (trust me, I’ve done this before). When you know you’ll be drinking, arrange for a sober friend to take the wheel on the way home (I’ve done this before too). Take the bus or shell out for a cab. Sleep over on a friend’s couch. You have so many choices, and if you can’t make a safe one yourself, get somebody to do it for you.
Just don’t drink and drive. Human life is worth more than that.